It also protects the sender from seeming over-eager: “If someone cannot wait a few hours for a response, the recipient may wonder if that attitude of impatience will carry into a potential relationship,” she says.As for the content of the double-text, Fedick strongly warns against passive-aggressive comments, like “Great conversation,” or allusions to non-responsiveness, like “Where’d you go, stranger?Bombarding a match with triple or quadruple messages is intrusive and may get you blocked.Launching back into the conversation with a friendly question or comment about a photo, as if the first text didn’t even happen, is the best strategy, says Fedick, as interesting conversations require interesting contributions.Dating has always been rife with various courtship dances but now text messaging has become a forum for manipulation for all ages, and grown-ups are cottoning on to the fact that texting may be the ideal power-play tool.The phenomenon was first reported on by The Wall Street Journal, which coined the term "bluffting": a text with a little bluffing.Sherry Turkle, a psychologist in science, technology and society at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology, told the newspaper: "It's perfect for manipulation.We can create anxiety because it's so intimate."So we hear stories about people who alleviate tension after an argument with their partner by sending them a blank text.
And if there’s one rule to obey, it’s to leave it at the double text.Users can choose from five categories (first contact, connecting, teething texts, asking-for-a-first-date texts and ping texts, which are reserved for those who want to get back in touch after a long period of absence) and will be serviced with the ideal text to send (from a pool of 25 to 30 for each category), each one being customisable, allowing you to edit the names, locations and times so you never have to worry about constructing the perfect text again.But what does Debrett's, purveyors of all things proper, have to say about all of this?Another common tactic includes responding to a text from a known contact with a withering "Sorry, who is this? Some send a text, complete with a term of endearment, which appears to be written for someone else, in the hope of making the receiver jealous. At best, this sort of behaviour could make you seem uninterested and cold, and, at worst, leave you looking plain rude. So what is it about texting that makes otherwise normal adults descend into such childish behaviour when they would never consider it in another form?"All the various forms of communication have a stumbling block and because people always have their phones on them and check them all the time, you have to be careful about how you deal with texts; you don't want to look like you're waiting by the phone," says Hayley Quinn, a dating coach and writer, specialising in the arts of conversation, persuasion and seduction.