But in all likelihood, you’re probably going to have a drink with someone who just doesn’t do it for you. I recall a friend excitedly going off for a first date with a chap - ‘I just have a good feeling about this one, he’s an academic you know’ - only to discover he was a librarian who spent the entire meal talking about dust jackets.The sooner you can assess whether those online sparks translate into real-life chemistry, the better.It makes the prospect of arranging dates a lot less scary.But, in the end, it doesn’t really matter how you met – online or off.Now, I’m not for a moment hinting at any sinister goings-on.The fact is – you’re unlikely to meet a con artist or lunatic.Published in the Journal of Computer-Mediated Communication, it explains that there’s a ‘tipping point’ when it comes to online dating.Put simply, how soon you meet will have a direct effect on your chemistry. You could be consigning yourself to a disappointing date.
What’s more, you have no way of telling which bits of information are true.
But the simple truth is that messaging on the internet is nothing more than a fact-finding mission.
You can gather information about the other person, but until you meet them you won’t know if ‘I love to laugh’ means Fawlty Towers or fart jokes. It’s easy to think you know a person better than you really do.
They conducted a survey of 433 online daters and found that the longer they waited to meet a match in person, the more likely they were to feel let down.
That trend that was significantly more obvious after the 17 to 23 day ‘tipping point’. That its lead researcher, Artemio Ramirez Jr., an Associate Professor, met his wife online in 2005.